- Be Grateful – Even For The Small Stuff
- Ask For What You Want
- Always Be Kinder Than You Need To
The very first thing to do if you’re looking to be happier in your current job is to focus on the good stuff and recognize all of the things you’re grateful for.
If you’re not happy right now you may have to start with the small things – it puts food on your table, you enjoy the people you work with, it’s close to home, it gives you time to catch up on your online shopping.
If you’re happy-ish but feeling burnt out or stressed, this list could look longer and more on point with your goals. You could be grateful that your work challenges you, that you get to learn new things, that you can see the fruits of your labour, that you’re contributing to a better world, that you’re creating a great role model for your kids or family.
If you’re freelancing or self-employed it could also include some gratitude for the flexibility, the adventure, the pride and excitement. If you’re already pretty content it could be that you have the ability to live a true and authentic life, that you get to help others, that you’re making your dreams come true.
Regardless of who you are, where you are, or what you’re doing, I guarantee there’s a list of things you can be grateful for. Start every day by either writing down or saying to yourself a few things you’re grateful for and watch it change the way you feel.
If you’re feeling creatively stifled, overlooked, under paid, under appreciated, stuck… don’t just complain. Take the time to uncover what it is about your job that is making you feel this way and think about some possible solutions to solve the problems. Do you need a raise? Do you want to work on different accounts? Are you choosing the “high paying” projects at the expense of your soul? Is the work just getting boring and you need to expand your skill set or change careers completely?
Go to your manager, your boss, your clients, whoever can help you remedy the situation and ask for what you want. Better yet, if you’re in a situation where you can make the change(s) yourself, just do it.
You do not hand to walk over people to get where and what you want in your career. Kindness and compassion are always the right choices. This is not to be confused with weakness or meekness, or allowing yourself to be a pushover. Instead it’s investing yourself in the relationships around you. It’s being understanding, kind, and helpful even when it feels like people don’t deserve it. It means steering clear of the gossip and pettiness and game playing that might be prevalent in your workplace.
It also means being kind to yourself. It means losing the guilt and shame. It means being your own cheerleader every minute of every day.
If you make a point of always being kinder than you need to be in your professional dealings, you’ll not only feel happier but you may find the people around changing for the better too.
If you’re unhappy at work, in your career, in your life it may be time to shed the skin you’re in and do a 180. Or it may be time to adjust your worldview and make these small, easy tweaks inside your mind. True, sustainable happiness might be closer than you think.